Old friends but different people

The other day I reconnected with my school friends, who I saw after some 10 years. We all were delighted and promised to meet each other whenever we can. There were few in the group who I could connect with and we hitted off immediately. Whereas a few seemed pretty distant and not willing to talk much about their present lives. Either the bond we had as kids didn't exist anymore or may be they thought they do not have place for old friends in their existing lives just because our thoughts do not seem to be the same.

I think when you look at this in a philosophical aspect, you can see that the other  who could connect with me are different people altogether now or may be they were plain jealous of what I have achieved so far. But I do not have hard feelings for them. I think we must be still in touch since you never know, they may make a big difference in my life in the future, God has got us all together for a reason, so we must not throw all of that away by bringing our egos inbetween. So please go ahead and patch with everyone you once has disagreed with or did not like. Happy Friendship reunion.

Why should everyone be educated?

A broken heart, tears rolling down and no one to talk to, this is still the situation of women in urban India, who are not well educated. One day the maid who works in my home, had severe bruises all over her body. I wondered how she could have even come to work in such a state. When I enquired about them, she broke down in tears and told me about how her husband and mother-in-law beat her in the night because she put less salt in the food. Then it dawned on me how education is so vital in our being? how important education is for everyone? Education tames one to act in a moral way, to overlook petty mistakes, to protect the weak and most of all to also educate others the basics of a good human relationship with everyone.

If my maid was educated she would not have stayed any longer with the man who beat her up. If my maid's mother-in-law was educated she would not have instigated her son to beat his wife and if the mother would have educated his son, then he would have never raised his hand on his wife. I then asked my maid to enroll herself into an adult education programme, which she did but later failed to follow it through.  She did not go to the police to complain about her husband and mother-in-law just because she will have no where else to go other than to her village where there is immense poverty and drunkard father. So unless there is a will to empower oneself with education no one in this world can force education on you.

So you see education is such a vital part of our lives, which we take for granted, especially when we were kids. I would want every parent to educate their children about the importance of a good education, and I would do the same with my children. Apt to this is a saying by an anonymous author: "When asked how much educated men were superior to those uneducated, Aristotle answered, 'As much as the living are to the dead.'"

Cuddling extremely important

I know, to most of us, this topic may seem unimportant, but being a mother of a 23 month old, hearing her screams with ongoing tantrums, cuddling comes very handy. Cuddling and talking to your child, puts their anger and anxiety away. Imagine youself in your kids place,  she needs cuddling too from time to time, your busy with work and she is being neglected, that is when she does a series of naughty stuff to gain your attention, that is when a cuddle can be miraculous to let your child know she is safe.

After a cuddle, see how your child changes her mood, she is happy, what more do you want? So the key to have a happy child is to cuddle every chance you get. Happy Cuddling :)

Crazy Childhood

Ohhh I do not remember me being so naughty like my daughter when I myself was a kid. But my mom keeps saying all the naughty things I used to do. Still I feel my daughter is ten times naughtier and smarter.

She is a quick learner too, is 2 months less in turning the terrible 2 , but still has her own toy camera, which she pretends to be clicking pictures with saying 'cheese' in a very cute way. She doesn't get bored watching the same video songs on Youtube the whole day, unlike me.

Hates to see me sit with my laptop doing work, she wants me to play with her 24x7 or will want to sit with my laptop plucking out the keys (which takes me ages to fix).

My sweet angel is my gym instructor who keeps me on my toes and helps me manage my weight. All my pre-pregnancy clothes still fit me is a relief. What a beautiful childhood of her keeps me a child in me alive .

Alternatives we get used to

Sitting with a thriller book in my bed after supper is so much missed these days. Life has changed drastically with a kid around. Now you will find me with a book in my bed but with my daughter's picture book. But yes when she is asleep I do grab time to go through a novel or catch up with friends on facebook or orkut.

But motherhood has brought lot of responsibilities like taking care of my daughter and managing home. Things I used to take for granted like spending time with my hubby has now become a valuable time I take out from my 'me' time. Time is so important now, that wasting it on unneccessary gossips with friends seems abnormal. Playing with my daughter is such a delight, she immitates tiny little habits of ours, and keeps us entertained almost all the time.

I wish that every single one of us get to experience all this and enjoy the alternatives we get used to.